After thousands of years of male dominance, we now stand at the beginning of the feminine era, when women will rise to their appropriate prominence, and the entire world will recognize the harmony between man and woman. — The Rebbe
A couple who was having communication problems came to see the Rebbe. The woman said that her husband was consumed with his work, and that when he finally found time to speak with her, he criticized her and ordered her around. The husband said that his wife had no respect for him and didn’t listen to any of his suggestions.
“Why do you think your wife should listen to you?” the Rebbe asked. “Because a woman must listen to her husband,” he replied.
“But why should a woman listen to her husband?” the Rebbe asked. “Because the man is the master of the house.”
“No,” said the Rebbe. “The first thing that you as a man must follow is the edict that ‘a man should honor his wife more than he does himself.’ And then the righteous woman will have a husband she can respect and love. If the man does not fulfill his role, then it is the woman who must respectfully bring it to his attention.”
Contemporary society is just beginning to delve into the true distinctions between men and women. Besides the obvious physiological differences, there are also differences in the way men and women think, speak, and behave.
In order to understand the essential nature of man and woman, we must do away with human subjectivity and look through G-d’s eyes. Every human being, man and woman, was created for the same purpose — to fuse body and soul in order to make themselves and their world a better and holier place. In their service of G-d, there is absolutely no difference between a man and a woman; the only difference is in the way that service manifests itself.
What are the differences between men and women?
Man and woman represent two forms of divine energy; they are the male and female elements of a single soul.
G-d is neither masculine nor feminine, but has two forms of emanation: the masculine form, which is more aggressive, and the feminine form, which is more subtle. For a human being to lead a total life, he or she must have both forms of energy: the power of strength and the power of subtlety; the power of giving and the power of receiving. Ideally, these energies are merged seamlessly.
Men are physically stronger. By nature, they are usually more aggressive and externally oriented. In contrast, a woman usually embodies the ideal of inner dignity. Some people confuse such subtlety with weakness; in truth, it is stronger than the most aggressive physical force imaginable. True human dignity does not shout; it is a strong, steady voice that speaks from within. The nature of a woman, while subtle, is not weak. And the nature of a man, while aggressive, is not brutish. For man and woman to be complete, they must each possess both energies.
The answer is not for men and women to try to be alike. All men and women must be themselves, realizing that G-d has given each of us unique abilities with which to pursue our goals, and that our primary responsibility is to take full advantage of those abilities.
What is true liberation for both sexes?
Though feminism rightfully calls for the end of male domination and abuse, and for equal rights for women, it is vital to get to the root of the distortion — that our focus in life, as man or woman, must not be simply to satisfy our own ego or needs, but to serve G-d. True women’s liberation does not mean merely seeking equality within a masculine world, but liberating the divine feminine aspects of a woman’s personality and using them for the benefit of humankind.
After so many years of male dominance, we are standing at the threshold of a true feminine era. It is time now for the woman to rise to her true prominence, when the subtle power of the feminine energy is truly allowed to nourish the overt power of the masculine energy. We have already proven that we can use our strength to slay the demons around us; let us now learn to nurture the G-dliness within.
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Have you ever thought why people are different from each other? There are many differences such as intelligence, opinions, appereances, personalities, and genders which, in my opinion, are the most basic ones. Genders represent the differences and also similarities between female and male, or women and men. In general, men undertake different responsibilities, tasks and women too. From history to modern time, the border –differences- between women and men hasn’t changed exactly yet. However, many people pretend not to see the similarities between men and women. In my opinion, it may be claimed that there are some differences and similarities between men and women in terms of responsibilities and tasks.
First of all, we can say that there are some resemblance between men and women in terms of their responsibilities. According to many ancient and modern philosophers, people born in equal conditions. Their appereances may exactly be different, but they have same intelligence, opinions such as beliving God, living in a good way, helping each other, etc. However, their social environment changes from people to other people. Then the differences begin since people continue their own individual way, and the basic reason of these differences is being a man or woman. In addition, many married couples share their duties in their homes equally and similarly. For example, in many countries, men and women prepare meals with helping each other. Especially, in developed country, they help each other since both women and men work in their job. Moreover, married couples are more sensitive at loking after their children than their previous generation. For instance, they help each other to put their baby or young child to the bed. Also, they show their love to the child. In the past, chidren love their mother more than they love their father since most of the things such as feeding, changing diapers, playing with them were being done by mothers. However, their mind has changed because fathers look after them too. Now they love both their father and mother equally. Furthermore, in business life, people take on similar tasks without looking their gender. For example, women can promote in their profession as easily as men do. That’s not all, they may also become a manager in their job like their oponent gender. Also, men can take place in the jobs, which are appropriate for women, for instance, beauty experts, baby sitter, birth doctor, etc. Also, They have started to learn how to work under a successful woman manager.
While it is true to say that there are some similarities between women and men, in fact, vice versa, there are many differences because of the unchangable facts; for example man is stronger than women, and women is foxier than men. Despite of philosphers, many people believe that the concept of one person is unique. That is to say, this person or nobody can have exactly similar twin including real twins. As a result, it is natural to say that men and women have many different responsibilities, tasks, objectives since they are two concepts which have different characteristic and proporties. In addition, at home, they take on different responsibilities, and they share the household tasks. For example, in many countries, generally, women wash the dishes, do the loundry and the ironing, tidy and clean the house. However, men work and earn money, do the necessary daily shopping, repair hosehold goods, take care of the car if it is present, etc. Furthermore, in business life, some companies regard their staff according to their gender. For instance, women can not work in construction work because it needs endurance and strenght, which are not available in the women’s bodies, and as a consequence of this, construction companies don’t hire woman builders. Also, in Turkey, men don’t tend to work as secretary and nurse since they are known as a woman job. As a result companies release the job advertisement for women.
All in all, it may be accepted that men and women have both similarities and differences. In my opinion, all people are created in a different way. Before the birth, they are loaded their destiny, and during their lives, people experience their faith. Due to these facts, people, namely men and women, undertake different tasks, responsibilities. It shouldn’t be important to share all the things equally between man and woman; the important thing is to be understanding and to help each other.